The past five years have been filled with some radical growth in the realm of true healing and heart opening. I hit a ‘dark night of the soul’ and the climbing out taught me more about living in the light than any medications, therapy or books ever did. I also learned that I am a highly sensitive person and an empath, which is someone who is “affected by other people’s energies, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others.” It means my life is ‘unconsciously influenced by others’ desires, wishes, thoughts, and moods’. I thought of this as wuwu bullshit for a long time and actually suppressed these special abilities with vices and addictions. But the last month or so was a big reminder.
During my studies, I learned about quantum physics, energy and frequencies. Over the years, I have attempted to separate the scientific from the spiritual in an attempt to stay credible in my profession. BUT NO MORE!! There is more and more scientific proof about the once esoteric. Plus, I have seen tens of thousands of patients who have given me anecdotal proof of the spiritual side of healing, energy, compassion and kindness, so I write with more confidence and experience. Not to mention the miracles I experienced through the time with my dad, the camino, my own research and interactions with patients, I have come to the realization that you cannot separate the two.
The past month, I’ve had more people come in and out of my home. My home is now my sacred space. Earlier this year, I made the declaration to only have people in my life who are awesome, amazing and who own that without apologies. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” Jim Rohn. That is why community is so important to me. I believe (and it is scientifically proven) that we can feed off each other and help each other out when one is down or sad or low, especially if the collective consciousness is one of goodness and high vibration, you can help that one person move closer to the light.
But I didn’t make that declaration to my home until yesterday. You have to protect your space, the place where you cook your food, you enter into the dreamworld, where you love, rest and reset and invite community. Early in the month, I had a grand influx of pilgrims, people who have walked or plan to walk the Camino de Santiago. These folks were very special and lovely and kept my space sacred and beautiful. I also had my family visit, who are always amazing and awesome. Everyone who came helped make my space even more of a healing haven than it already feels. We also had our supper club and the more community there was, the warmer my space felt.
But in that time, I also had some crazy drama and low vibration creating havoc on my space brought in by a situation that didn’t serve me. I felt drained and heavy. I felt my energy shifting into the darkness rather than focusing on the light. I laid in bed for three days and ate a bunch of crap food. My dog got sick. My allergies were at an all time high. I was on the verge of quitting my dreamwork. I wanted to indulge, to numb, to forget. And each time these overwhelmed me, I tried so hard to practice self-love, but often I just went to sleep.
As the situation was resolving, I meditated and sent love to those involved. It was really a challenge as my ego creeped in to make sure that I was heard, but I just kept repeating ‘loving kindness’. My sister helped me get through this part, she always has the perfect response to everything I send her way.
And literally the second the situation resolved, so did everything else. My puppy let out this huge exhale once the door closed. My eyes stopped itching, my nose stopped running, my relationships got back on track. I stopped bitching and complaining. My chest pain stopped. My bowels calmed down. I could breathe again. I felt like a slice of heaven planted itself in my heart once again.
This morning I made a delicious, high vibration breakfast, went for a nature-infused walk, did some Native American cleansing with white sage and sea salt on my home. I did my morning meditation and yoga with the intention to clear the space of any negativity. Finally at the end of the work, I had increased my vibration so much, Justin said I sounded lighter, happier.
According to Pamela Dessault:
‘We all vibrate energetically at a particular frequency. The lower the frequency, the denser your energy, and the heavier your problems seem. Here you may experience pain and discomfort in your physical body and experience heavy emotions and mental confusion. Psychically, your energy is darker. You need to exert a great deal of effort to accomplish your goals. Overall, your life takes on a negative quality.
The higher the frequency of your energy or vibration, the lighter you feel in your physical, emotional, and mental bodies. You experience greater personal power, clarity, peace, love, and joy. You have little, if any, discomfort or pain in your physical body, and your emotions are easily dealt with. Your energy is literally full of light! Your life flows with synchronicity, and you manifest what you desire with ease. Overall, your life takes on a positive quality.’
Raising your vibration includes being grateful for what you already have around you. You know what a big fan I am of gratitude journaling. Sometimes I have to dig deep to make my list. I definitely had to do that the last few weeks. But this morning when I did it, it finally flowed and that feeling of light just started flowing in.
It’s easy to start a gratitude practice, it isn’t so easy to stay with one. But I challenge you to try. 🙂 Just three things to follow: something new every day, write down 3+ things, people, experiences, feelings, lyrics, animals, revelations that you’re grateful for, practice for at least 21 days straight.
Practicing acts of kindness is another way to raise your energy, as is providing service to others. Simply offering a smile or a kind word can lift someone else, which in turn lifts you. Watch your own thoughts and words. See how they elevate or depress you, every great change starts with self-awareness. Look at your self-limiting beliefs and make a decision to change them or at least evaluate how they make you feel.
Eat high-energy foods like fresh, local (if possible), organic fruits and vegetables, teas, spices and seasonings, nuts and seeds. And filtered water, please work on making filtered water your only source. According to Dr. Kelly Brogan, who wrote A Mind of Your Own, ‘if you’re a member of an industrialized nation, then you now have an average of seven hundred synthetic chemicals in your body from food, water and air’. The very least we can do for our health is invest in filtered water for all drinking and cooking. Dr. Brogan also says that “Municipal water is contaminated with pharmaceutical products, industrial pollutants, microbes and about six hundred different toxic-disinfecting by-products”. These toxins are not cooked out or boiled out. So make an investment, as we are biologically mostly water-based organisms. It’s something easy to do for yourself and your health.
So there you go. That’s how I broke my bad vibrations into good ones. And that is how this piece came to life. And though I still have that uncomfortable feeling about putting something that many may consider ‘fringe’ out there, I know I have to. Mostly because I found peace and healing through these practices and anytime I find that, I share with the world in hopes that at least one person can find solace in something that was said.
Yesterday, while listening to Dr. James Doty speak about his new book Into the Magic Shop, he said something that stuck with me. The Dalai Lama told him that the only time it is okay to be selfish is when you’re compassionate. This is because when you practice compassion, that kindness and compassion boosts your immune system, decreases stress hormones, improves the cardiovascular system and decreases blood pressure.
So, in closing, I leave you with a little selfishness, as sharing more love that helps you makes me even lighter, less anxious and more in the flow, which is a wave that I’m going to ride as long as I possible can.
Want more information? Watch “What The Bleep Do We Know?” or read about Emoto’s water experiments. Read or listen to Dr. Bruce Lipton’s “The Biology of Belief”.
Photo of Sigur Ros at Greek Theatre. The vibrations were really high that evening as they make music that sounds like you’ve entered a sonic kingdom of magic. Music as medicine, it exists too.